Hit-and-Run Victim's Friends To Driver: Do the Right Thing

The Lupos in Amagansett remember John Judge as a part of their family.

Tony Lupo placed a bouquet of flowers on the side of Main Street, where John Judge was struck and killed in a hit-and-run accident as he left Astro Pizza on Tuesday night, with a note that reads: "To the best friend in the whole world."

"I lost a piece of myself," Lupo said from his Amagansett home, the morning after the accident that took the life of his friend of over 40 years.

Judge had just finished dinner at Astro Pizza — Lupo's son Joey made him veal marsala. "JJ," as they called him, lived right across the street in a rental apartment. The Lupos said he left through the side door, as he always did. No one quite knew exactly when he left, but they think it was around 7:40 p.m. 

"He almost made it across the street," Joey Lupo said. 

Dominick Stanzione, who is an East Hampton Town councilman, arrived to pickup a take out order, when he spotted a man the street, up against the tire of a Toyota Tundra that was parked on the eastbound side of the street. 

He ran into Astro Pizza, yelling for someone to call 911. 

Right away, Joey Lupo said, his father asked if the victim was Judge. After they called 911, he ran outside and recognized Judge by his jeans and his boots. His sweatshirt was pulled over his head, his body mangled, Joey Lupo recalled.

Police received the call at 7:52 p.m. The vehicle that hit him was long gone.

"You hit somebody and just go? Do the right thing," Tony Lupo said. "Even if it's a dog or something, you stop." 

Lupo's wife Allison said Judge, 61, was a part of her family, someone who came on family vacations, was at the table for holidays, was a fixture at their family restaurant, and helped fix things around the house.

"We don't have the same last name. We're not blood related, but John was my family. He was like my fourth child and, for my husband, he was like a brother," she said. 

She said he had coffee with her husband every morning at 8 a.m. and sat at the restaurant at night. "He was a predictable guy. Every day was the same day for him. He'd leave the restaurant and say, 'See you in the morning, kiddo.'"

The Lupo family described Judge as a generous person who would do anything for anybody. He lived simply and didn't care about making money.

Tony Lupo recalled a time when Judge was sick with a fever, but still kept his word to do some repairs. After two hours of work, he only charged the woman $20.  "I had to keep on top of him to get paid because most of the time he wouldn't even charge," he said. 

The two friends met when Lupo was 13 years old, newly emigrated from Italy and working at John's Pizza in Hampton Bays. They kept in touch for three decades as Judge, who was originally from the Bronx and was a bit of a drifter, travelled the country for work. Alison Lupo said Judge's wife died at 40 from colon cancer, and he was never quite the same. He showed up in Amagansett about 12 years ago and never left. 

He worked odd jobs and enjoying fishing, boating and spending time with the Lupos on the beach. He had no children, but is survived by a sister, Peggy, in Florida, and two brothers, Billy, in Pennsylvania, and Bobby, in Virginia. 

According to Allison Lupo, he had been selected in the lottery for an apartment at the affordable housing for seniors at St. Michael's Lutheran Church in Amagansett, which will be done soon. "He was so excited. He was going to have a home," she said.

Two days ago, she helped him fill out paperwork to receive Social Security, as he was going to turn 62 on Dec. 22. Gianfelice (John) Lupo, another son of Allison and Tony who teaches at East Hampton High School, said Judge just joked that he didn't think he would make it to the age to receive Social Security, since many of his friends hadn't. 

"I feel terrible for my father. I don't know who my dad is going to hang out with now," he said. 

While they are all reeling from the loss of a part of their family, they want to see the driver take responsibility.

"Knowing who it is isn't going to change the fact John is gone, but maybe it can just bring some closure to what happened," she said. "You don't just leave somebody on the side of the road like that. Whatever happened, it was an accident no matter what. Please, please come forward." 

Crime Stoppers has posted up to a $5,000 reward for information leading to the arrest of the driver. For more information click here.

Dr. Sarah Alward October 24, 2012 at 06:44 PM
So, so senseless. This just breaks my heart. My thoughts and condolences to out to Mr. Judge's family and his friends, who from this article, sound like they were family too. Let's hope and pray this killer is caught.
barbara engel October 24, 2012 at 07:04 PM
John was a very kind man. Helpful to many and missed by all who knew him. I am deeply saddened by this tragedy.
barbara engel October 24, 2012 at 08:51 PM
My thoughts and thanks are with the entire Lupo clan who took him into their loving hearts and made John's life so much kinder.
Dorotea Valente October 24, 2012 at 09:13 PM
My heart goes out to the Lupo's family. They were John's best friends and more than family!!! Few times in life you see such a true and real friendship!! John's life was blessed by Tony and Allison and their kids!!!!
Shrinkgirl October 24, 2012 at 10:11 PM
Much love to the Lupo family. It sounds like you showered John with love. Thanks for your sense of love and old fashioned values.
randy potter October 25, 2012 at 12:49 AM
John was a person of the heart and the Lupos were the heartbeat of John. God bless them all. Nan and Randy Potter
Shrinkgirl October 25, 2012 at 01:17 AM
Beautiful comment. Thank you.
Peggy DiLena October 25, 2012 at 01:34 AM
To The Lupo Family, We wish to thank you for the love and support you have given to our brother John all these years. He had spoken many times about the special relationship he had with all of you. We know you all held a special place in his heart. We are very sorry for your loss, we will miss him too. His brothers, Bob and Billy, and sister Peggy
Misty October 25, 2012 at 01:35 AM
Im so glad that someone forwarded a link to me about the Lupo family, I really needed to read this to know that John was loved and not alone, I will let my children know of this link and this wonderfully kind family. Johnny was my children's uncle and he was loved here in VA also. He was a good man, a gentle man and will be missed. My heart is heavy tonight and my prayers are for everyone whose heart was touch by this gentle man. I'm so very thankful you posted the pictures of Johnny - it was nice to see him and to have pictures to send to his neice and nephew, Tina Marie and Billy. We have pictures from when we all were young but these pictures show the calmness and peaceful way Johnny lived his life. No one deserves to be killed - and not to stop as a person lie dying in the road! It hurts so much!
Taylor K. Vecsey (Editor) October 25, 2012 at 01:50 AM
Peggy, thank you for leaving a comment during what must be a very difficult time for you and your brothers. We are so sorry for your loss. If there is anything we can do at Patch — such as write a formal obituary or announce service information, please do not hesitate to reach out. My email address is Taylor.Vecsey@patch.com and my phone number is 631-655-9801. Again, our deepest condolences from all of us at Patch.
1/2 n 1/2, 2 sugars October 25, 2012 at 12:01 PM
I heard that pieces of the car that hit John were found in the road... Please release the make and model info so the entire community can get some justice. A true senseless shame...
Peggy English October 25, 2012 at 01:25 PM
John was a very kind hearted man, he always spoke about his family when he came home from his visits with them. My family will miss him.
lisa durham October 25, 2012 at 02:50 PM
My sincere condolences to the Judge and Lupo families. John was my friend. We shared many lunches and dinners at Felice's together. I worked with him at Decorum for many years. He was a kind, generous, and sweet man. I always felt he had a "good heart". I hope the person who did this will come forward. It will not bring John back, but it will bring closure. He will be sincerely missed by me and our community.
Elaine Monroe October 25, 2012 at 03:39 PM
John worked at Decorum for 13 years. He was a an unforgettable character. He was a good soul, thoughtful of others, always willing to help anyone. He was a "jack of all trades" and indispensable at the store. I cannot imagine what we will do without him. He knew everyone in Amagansett and will be missed by all. Elaine Monroe
Tina Babb October 25, 2012 at 04:28 PM
My Uncle Johnny was a kind and generous soul. I haven't seen him in a long time, but I thought of him often. He always made me smile and laugh from a little girl to a young adult. He will be missed by many.
Noah Brown October 25, 2012 at 07:14 PM
Let's help find the heartless person responsible for Mr. Judge's death. I will be happy to see justice serve for his family and friends peace of mind!
Mark R English October 26, 2012 at 07:06 PM
John will be missed by all he touched, including me. Many nights we shared a table at astros.


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