Rampant Bullying Problem? Share Your Story

In the wake of David Hernandez Barros' death, bullying brought to the forefront in East Hampton.

Bullying is on the forefront of everyone's minds after David Hernandez Barros, a junior at East Hampton High School, died on Sept. 29. 

In a story in The East Hampton Star on Thursday, Carmita Barros confirmed rumors that her son was bullied by other students because of his sexual orientation. She claims school administrators did not do enough to stop it.

The school has not issued a response. 

What is your response? We know bullying happens in high schools across the country, but do you feel it's a rampant problem at schools in the Town of East Hampton? If you have a story you'd like to share — you may do so below or email the author.

The Long Island Gay and Lesbian Youth network announced Tuesday that it will host a meeting at East Hampton High School on Oct. 22 at 6 p.m.

David Kilmnick, the chief executive officer of the network, said that nationally 90-percent of gay teens feel bullied to some degree. Gay teens are also three times more likely to commit suicide than their heterosexual peers, he said.

But he said East Hampton School District has been amongst the most proactive district, holding sensitivity workshops, and forming Gay Straight Alliances in both the high school and middle school.

What can we as a community do about bullying? Tell us in the comments below.

Need help? In the U.S., call 1-800-273-8255 for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. You can also visit The Trevor Project's website, a national organization providing support to LGBT youth, or call them at 1-866-488-7386. And if you're worried about a friend on Facebook, you can report troubling posts. They'll connect your friend with a representative from National Suicide Prevention Lifeline.


laszlo Lowenstein October 16, 2012 at 06:38 PM
Wow, your ability to diverge from the subject is astounding. Who said anything about knives and guns? In what world is standing up for yourself a bad thing that demonstrates "aggression issues?" And yes, you are not a professional and have no idea what you are talking about. At least we can agree on that.
Catherine M. Casey October 16, 2012 at 08:02 PM
To answer the question, I can only compare my children's 8 years in EHHS to my own high school experience which was, admittedly, in the previous millenium and then some. I believe EHHS is sensitive to the issue and they are doing everything within their power and resources to address it. This is taken directly from a school communication to the school community: "Programming Update-School Culture and Climate: 1. LIGALY Program-Community Forum-October 22 2. Class Meetings-Ongoing 3. Consultation with National School Climate Center-October 17 4. Cyber-Bullying Program-Oct or November 2012 5. Suicide Prevention Program-January 2013 6. Challenge Day(s)-Spring 2013 7. Staff Development-currently working on program and training 8. GSA Meeting and Programs-Ongoing 9. Justice League-Ongoing" participated in Challenge Day as a parent and it was a very powerful experience, one I will never forget.
Melpo October 16, 2012 at 08:22 PM
Yes, I wholeheartedly agree......
Dana Kalbacher October 16, 2012 at 08:26 PM
What's "happened" is that people sit behind their keyboards and become very brazen and rude behind closed doors. They wouldn't take that chance face to face..or would they? Anonymous postings and comments on websites all over the internet world promote bullying in many cases. JMO..
Catherine M. Casey October 16, 2012 at 08:55 PM
Ditto, Dana. A good test for integrity is: if you won't sign your name to it, perhaps you shouldn't share.


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