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Why Good People Can't Leave Bad Relationships: A New Book

Have you ever wondered how a nice person like yourself became a magnet for louses, lowlifes, lunatics and liars?  If so, then this book is definitely a must-read for you.  Trust that it will help you with all your relationships, including personal, professional, platonic, and romantic ones.  More importantly, this book will help you have a better relationship with God and with yourself.  Be prepared to be shocked as you learn just how bad your so-called good traits can be.  To The Good to a Fault People (The Great Enablers), Cindi Sansone-Braff will be seen as their saving grace.  To The Self-Serving Narcissists (The Unfixables), she's definitely going to be their worst nightmare.

                   Top Ten Reasons Why You Need This Book Now!
Please answer true or false:

1. I like to see the good in everyone, and I give everyone the benefit of the doubt.
2. I believe everyone is like me and tells the truth, or at least when they’re lying, they know that they’re lying.
3. I believe I can fix people, and I feel bad when I can’t, because somehow I feel it’s all my fault anyway.
4. I forgive easily and often.
5. I am extremely loyal.
6. I feel bad when I have to walk away from people, even when they’ve hurt me.
7. I’m a peacemaker and rarely express anger, even when people have hurt and betrayed me.
8. I tend to turn the other cheek; therefore, I make a lot of excuses for people’s abuse: you know, I feel bad that they had bad parents, blah, blah, blah, yada yada yada…
9. I never make people account for their bad actions, so, everyone gets away with murder around me.
10. I’m a giver, and I really don’t expect much in return.


After reading the above statements, and answering true to all or most of them, you’re now thinking: Wow! I really am a nice person! Think again. These personality traits are the ones that keep you trapped in unhappy and unhealthy relationships. Reading this book will give you the strength and courage to know when enough is enough!

You will be shocked to learn that the above traits are a form of narcissism. What, me a narcissist? Yes, good people have their own form of narcissism, but I will refer to you as a “Well-Meaning Narcissist,” as opposed to a “Self-Serving Narcissist.” 

Having the above personality traits may make you look like a saint, a Christian martyr, but isn’t it egotistical of you to think that you can fix people and that all the mess of the world is your fault?

If you possess any one of the traits listed in the above ten statements, or, what’s worse—many of these traits—then you really, really need this book! 
Beg, borrow, Kindle it!

This little good book is your survival guide in a bad, bad, bad, bad world.

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